Love. Joy. Happiness. You

Oftentimes we give others the opportunity to create our happiness, and many times we fail to create it the way we want want it. Why? Because the only one person can be in charge of our joy, of our bliss, and that's YOU! So even your parent, your child, your spouse - they do not have the control to create our happiness. They simply have the opportunity to share in our happiness. Our joy lies within us!

All our joy is on the frequency of love - the highest and the most powerful frequency of all. We cant hold love in our hand. We can only feel it in our heart. It is a state of being. We can see evidence of love being expressed through people, but love is a feeling, and we are the only one that radiate and emit that feeling of love. Our ability to generate feelings of love is unlimited, and when we love we are in complete and utter harmony with the Universe. 

Love everything we can. Love everyone we can. Focus only on things we love, feel love, and we will experience that love and joy coming back to us - multiplied! The law of attraction must send us back more things to love. As we radiate love, it will appear as though the entire Universe is doing everything for us, moving every joyful thing to you, and moving every good person to us. In truth, it is!

Lets Love everyone, turn around now, and let the one beside you first that you love them or take your phone and tell them..Love is sweet,  make life more lovable people! :). 

Have a lovely day people!!

Happiness Folder

“I realized that so much of memory is rehearsal. You get so much of it from friends, family, just going over things with us. I had siblings yet and I didn’t have friends from when I was little girl. So much of it is just lost.”

It is true enough that it is easy to get bogged down with unhappy memories. In the times we have messed up, or the times we have failed at something, and the list can just go on and on. And amidst the discouraging thoughts, it becomes easier not to follow up with a cold email, or not to attempt a new project. Yet this is what I believe that we rehearse a lot of memories — so why not make a conscious effort to guide memory development?

I was watching an interview on Happiness; I toyed with the idea of rehearsing memories myself. Shortly after, I started bookmarking encouraging chats, or just writing down really happy or exciting moments. Some include the day I started a new job, good times with friends, chilling time with someone I really admired, going on a really funny date, watching my favourite hero movies. I also keep screenshots of amusing images, and quotes or passages of text that I have found particularly practical or meaningful. It had really made small changes which I proudly call it as my “happiness folder”

I believe everyone has to treat you mentally. Do a list of Happiness. The list can contain anything that helps you rehearse the memories that you need to become happier in the long-term. This ranges for everyone that could include:

•      A folder of happiness that include memories that make you more confident prior to a nerve-racking meeting. (e.g., Journal entries or photos of your “trophies” or “past stories” — just like your first sale closed memories of childhood friends/good friends
•      Or a folder that reminds you when you were a kid/teenager – things that you use to do and now you have forgotten. Why don’t recall them and continue doing? Possible!
•     Or a folder about your admirer/person that you wanted to be with, yeah it will give you a little heart ache but trust me it will of cause gives a million smiles!! That is a happiness within that you could get from anywhere! Yes I did J.
•     Or a folder fun filled with “selfie” of you? Possible, why not?? Posting and sending your selfie images to friends/boyfriends/girlfriends has become a TREND and soon it will be a norm in everyone! Do it if it gives you the happiness!

These cues remind me of the times I felt on top and hopefully help me find a pattern between them, so I can understand myself better. But they’re also a sight for sore eyes on particularly gloomy days/months/moments which I gone through when I am about to attempt something out of my comfort zone.

A lot of us are our own worst critics; there is where the Happiness we had done before will serve as a way to balance that out a little bit.

In a worst-case scenario, we have a hotbed of creativity to draw from. Life won’t seem to pass by as fast, because we as human we are always glued in making more marks along the journey. But you may find your ability to cheer yourself up a lot more powerful with this resource, why not? 

Admittedly, the Happiness Folder still sounds like a bit of an indulgence. It’s a warm, fuzzy, folder. Trust me; it is the caring friend close to you that will gives you a nudge in the right direction. Perhaps the natural progression is to start on a more stimulating experiment — a “Life Lessons Folder”, where I take my worst memories and re-frame them. It could be good practice.

Delude yourself all you want, we live in a world heavily influenced by other people. At least briefly consider what they think.

Get into your Happiness Folder people & Be happy!

Something NEW?ME? Unbelievable yet must believe it :).

I have found something new about myself...something that I have discovered about myself and it has proven that the past that I had gone through has not being an obstacle for me to move on, of course with a smile that is and will always be in me...

FRIENDS has always been a role of motivator factor in my life ever since the hardship, ups and downs that I had gone alone...Yeah I believe ALL of us had our OWN sayings, descriptions and sorrows behind OUR smiles but trust me FRIENDS had lift me up to what I am seeing myself today...This is ONE that I found in me. They had been so nice, close, comfort and I always feel I have someone to share, cry and of course not forgetting a place to stand on my tortures and at times my mischievousness, hahaha...

STUDENTS has also been ONE out the many reasons I am smiling wide here today. Yes, as my passionate towards teaching being the first lover, it means my STUDENTS are also part of it! Some has been very close with me, past students, current students and maybe looking more in future. Some of my students, are now has been categorised as good buddies, god brothers/sisters and some can be classified as best friends! No matter what, as educator, I will give my best as they had been one reason that had colored my life so much!!

MYSELF, I have discovered so many new habits or hobbies to make myself so much occupied. Outing with friends has been a new activity and yeah I feel good with this little little changes in me which shows a little changes in me. I have also started to think off on being healthier and to occupied myself more on outdoor activities, still planning hope to make it real! Songs, has been my best companion lately and I didnt know at all that I could sing and the worst part is I am sending those songs to a friend without any doubt, I NEVER had done this in my life, and asking myself why am I doing this? hmmm wondering :p...but I really enjoy those little little things that I am doing right now, I believe more new good and positive habits will be in me soon!

SPECIAL PEOPLE in life has been always a question mark for me, yet I am NOT giving up, still waiting and will wait with smile. Missing someone for the past or for the days has been really a testing period for me and on my patience yet I always tell myself, "the more patient you are, the more good things are on the way"...with that believe and I just carry on...

More things YOU as person may or may not discovered, why wait, lets do something for OURSELVES and do remember to keep and make OUR surroundings happy! The more WE make others HAPPY the more MERRIER our LIVES will be :)...

Stay tune for more updates :). 

 

What You Like to Do and What I Like to Do :)

Hobbies are often thought of as activities for people who lead quiet, relaxed lives. However, people with full, busy, even stressful lives may need hobbies more than the average person, and benefit greatly from having hobbies in their lives. Saying this, it reflects a lot on myself. At times I dont event have time to eat and even catch up with friends around. That's so bad of me!!

I understand one thing that doing something we like brings many benefits that usually make them more than worth the time they require. 

Friends, lets understand that hobbies provide a slice of work-free and responsibility-free time from your tied schedule. This can be especially welcome for people who feel overwhelmed by all that they have to do, and need to recharge their batteries by doing something they enjoy. For those who feel overwhelmed by responsibility, it may be difficult to find the time or give themselves permission to take a break from a busy schedule and just sit and relax. Engaging in hobbies, however, can provide a break with a purpose, which can help people feel that they’re not just ‘sitting around’, but are using their down time for something productive. Either way, I seriously believe that hobbies provide a nice break in a busy week.

What I like to do? Oh yeahh I love writing in my blog - which I admit it has been lost for months! but good thing I will be engaged seriously after this with more and more updates! Singing with no so good voice has been a passion too in me and my best singing or my best crime partner is my lovely brother who has no choice to choose to sing with me! poor thing! I just feel a little sad on my few of closest friends who has to bear with my song and voice! haha..

Ask yourself a moment, what you like to do and its not too late to chase and fulfill all the needs and wants you are lacking in doing it. Trust me, it will be fun doing it and it will surely make you smile wide and wide!!

Happy searching yourselves and you are deserve to smile :). 

Two Years!

It has been TWO BIG years past ever since I say a "HI" to my own blog! This is NOT good at all I guess.. I am promising myself to make myself free to continue on my blog writing. It is a new resolution of this year 2014 even though it is almost half a year gone!

I believe that I have so much to share, pour, ponder and also to make myself occupied with you my dear BLOG...

Stay tuned, will update more...promise is a promise...... :)

Women hate about men

The relationship between men and women has always been a love-hate type.Though this is a much debated topic, we know for sure that a woman never likes a man who is weak or shows too much of interest in her initially. Similarly there are many points that psychologists have tried to analyze. It would be very easy to put it down in a few simple points, but perhaps it is best to debate this topic by asking questions. 
How would you feel if you see your man with another woman enjoying a cup of coffee at the coffee shop around the street corner? 
Chances are, you would feel a sense of jealousy, even if the woman is just an office colleague who just wanted to feel a little relaxed. This is just an example and hundreds more can be cited. Any relationship can survive just on one sentence 'Trust me and I will never let you down' If you really mean it, this can be the foundation of any statement.

Many Psychoanalysts often point out that women often contradict themselves while expressing what they desire and do not desire in men. 

Though women publicly admit that they like men who are strong, secretly they like a man on whom she can wield certain amount of power. Well for all the men reading thinks 'She is always a woman for me' is how we would love to define her. 

No matter what, men will always enjoy the company of women. Let me now bring out certain points which women definitely find annoying in a man. Imagine your boyfriend calling you up every 15 minutes, when you are in the middle of a busy road. Regardless of how much you love your partner, this can become very irritating, as you would feel you are free to be on your own, due to the constant phone calls.

Now imagine you are on a first date and he starts talking about the amount of money that he has made in the stock markets or the new Ferrari that he has bought. I am sure more often than not a woman would not like to hear about these things on the first date. While do talk about what they do for a living on first dates, it is usually considered annoying and ruse for someone to brag about their earnings.

It is also likely (majority of the times) that a woman would not like a person who would show insensitivity towards her feelings. This is a mistake that many men make and women do not like this attitude from them. There are many other factors that women generally do not like in men such as arrogance, lies, submissive behavior, etc. 

Never ever show a woman that you have a weak character. This is one of the traits that women dislike in a man. It is a mistake that many men make by making a woman feel that he is ready to fall at her feet. Contrary to a man’s thinking that a woman would appreciate it, women get annoyed with men who are too submissive and ready to do anything for her. This does not mean that a woman does not want a sensitive man who is open about his feelings, but it does mean that a woman still wants a man to be his own person, think for himself and claim what he wants from a relationship.

A woman’s relationship with a man is very delicate and she looks for a strong shoulder to rest her head. A woman always likes a man who has a big heart and ready to share and care. A self-centered man is rarely loved by women and more often than not will crave for female company. You are setting yourself up for failure, if you show undue interest in other women when you are with a woman. This is a behavior that women dislike and will definitely put her off. 

Manipulative attitude is something that women dislike in a man. Hence, try to be as open in your behavior as possible and at the same time do not fall prey if she displays manipulative behavior. Keeping these points in mind, you can win over a woman. 

Remember that love blossoms slowly and you need to give your woman time and space if you really want to win her over. 

Beware men! :). 

Interesting in 2011 and another chance in 2012 :)

Just felt 2011 started and now it has come to the end and all of us are going to say Goodbye to 2011 and we going to welcome with lots of smile and new hopes, the new year 2012!!!

I ask myself what I have done through out 2011...hmmm I deeply feel that this year had taught me lot and I had went through lots of ups and downs by my own and seriously when I look back, I can confidently smile and say "yes I had achieved a lot!" and I proud of myself and to see myself now :). Thanks to all that contributed and supported me directly and indirectly. I praise God for giving me the courage to survive and struggle out with achievements no matter in my personal life and also in my work/career.

The first 7 months was a tough month for me, at work and also in my personal life. but when now I look back, its like a great relieve for me..MQA Audit was killing me one side, the pressure given by my boss was at the max till have experience crying in the meeting for the words that he used to scold me in front of every one! that is really a bad experience that I really went  through  all alone.. but I had good support form my colleagues that really had made me stand longer there.....besides that, at the same time I was not very well, as my health wise, and that was really worrying me, where I had to undergo an operation during the same time.... emotionally I was terribly down and with the amount of work that I have to carry was really pressing me...and of all, I was in midst of completing my Masters! my supervisor was just like chasing me after and after for my thesis, and I was like travelling up and down almost every weekend.... SCM Night 2011 as the main advisor, I was like running here and there for the activities, advising students for the event.. but good thing is I had a bunch of hardworking students that I can really rely on, but still it was all under my care and the trust and expectation that my boss had on me was as high as the sky! handling an event in the 5 stars hotel is not that easy as saying....besides that handling students management, class management, staff management and etc etc was just on my head....

After the 7th month, it was bit of relieve and I wanted or supposed to leave SCM and to venture in a different area or I would say to work in a different college/university, which that was my main aim...but things change terribly when I was kept there back and being promoted as the Coordinator now...I wonder how long would it last?? will see how more in 2012...I really hope things will get much much better in 2012 with the new presence in my life and new new changes in my life :). I would just like to smile now........

Another happiness that I went through was my Graduation :). I really had a good time and blessings from God and parents.. I thanked them for all the effort and support given, there is where I am now.. Obviously, I will not further my studies anymore but to think of settling down soon with the one that captured my heart :).. I would again like to leave with a smile :). 

This are the main interesting part in my life in 2011...I wish to look forward for more and more good and positive surprises in 2012....and I would welcome 2012 with lots of smile smile smile and not forgetting thank you 2011 :)

Cheers to a New Year and another chance for us to get it right in 2012!