Fulfilling a Happy Relationship

Finding someone to be in a relationship is actually quite easy. Finding someone to be in a relationship that actually fulfills us, however, is a different story. So how do we find a relationship that truly fulfills our needs and desires? Setting our priorities straight and having realistic expectations will help guide us into the right direction in finding the relationship we have always wanted. Before we can do that though, we need to make sure that we feel fulfilled on our own first.

So many people ended up in relationships that do not fulfill them because they are entering the relationship with the wrong expectations and for the wrong reasons. A big example of this is someone entering a relationship as a way to feel complete. Many people feel unsatisfied with themselves and their lives, and believe that someone else will be able to fill in that gap for them. Placing the responsibility for our happiness on someone else is unrealistic and will only result in disappointments in the relationship. We also need to acknowledge and accept the fact that there is no such thing as the perfect relationship and that there will be issues that will require teamwork and compromise.

Most people have the idea that if a relationship is truly happy and meant to be, then there never will be any problems and should not require so much work- it should just be happy. Well, if this is how we view relationships, then it is time to change our way of thinking before we set our self up for more painful reality checks. If we are interested in finding a person to build a strong romantic relationship with, the best thing to do would be to start by focusing on our self first- and make sure that we are having our life sorted out, before deciding to share it with someone else. Majority of people would read this say of course, it's common sense and while this may true, people still enter relationship with unrealistic expectation, wrong reasons or before making sure they are fulfilled on their own first.

So if we feel we are ready to be in a serious, committed relationship, do self a favor and take it one step at a time. Review the relationship we have first and make sure that we are truly happy with it and where we stand currently in our life. Ask our self why we feel the need to be in a relationship, what we are prepared to invest into it, as well as what we are expecting from our partner. Sorting this out will help us understand our relationship goals and will help us understand what it is our need to look for in a person when trying to find a romantic partner to share our life with.

To love is nothing, to be loved is something, to love and to be loved is everything in a relationshipJ.

Leaving with a meaningful smile J